I've been told "this is what YOU believe." I've been told "that's not what YOU'RE saying." I've been told "nobody would think that."
I've been told, in sum, that the speaker has not realized that there's another way of seeing the world that does not revolve around them.
This problem -- of empathy, ego, or perspective -- is common as well as devastating to our societies.
- In the first instance, you have disagreements or misunderstandings with people.
- In the second, you cannot work with people.
- In the third -- and worst -- your "community" weakens.
Those small scale examples can be applied on a larger, national or international scale, but they depend on respecting the views of others, taking the time to understand those views, and finding ways to reconcile or abide by others' views (except when they harm others).
Does this mean that people cannot disagree? Does it mean that they cannot say hurtful things? No. People are always going to say these things -- intentionally or not. The key is to find ways of living with them and -- hopefully -- removing their sting, two outcomes that come with thoughtful living (wisdom).
Bottom Line: We must spend more time listening to others by spending less time on ourselves.
2 comments:
Another twist on your conclusion about connecting, is listening to what we are saying a bit more carefully, which may assist us in hearing what other people hear. But yes, empathy and standing in the other person’s shoes are the big ones.
Totally agree - in our rush for efficiency and deadlines, we miss the opportunity for listening to others and thinking creatively, at local and global levels, and to engage with ideas outside our normal mindset - Mary from Australia
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