23 January 2013

Old guys and young girls in Philippines

Not her dad
I just visited Philippines for the first time and loved the country and its people. One thing that stood out (vs., e.g, Malaysia, Vietnam, et al.) was the visibility of "couples" composed of (usually) old white foreign guys and young Filippinas.

I asked a friend who had lived in Philippines what he thought, and his answer is worth sharing:

"Rather than one single explanation, I will throw out several:

Long colonial history, including long acceptance of international relationships, e.g., Macarthur and his mistress.

English proficiency and Catholic background equals desirability for many Western guys, who find them easier to relate to than Thai or Vietnamese or Indo or other Asian girlfriends

Many websites, both free and pay, that cater to Filipinas and foreign hookups of all kinds. These include a huge mix of people -- some maybe in it for the money, some for love, some to try something new.

Overpopulation + Poverty equals families eager to gain some extra financial support from their daughters' boyfriends/husbands, and hence encouraging of hookups of all kinds.

An entrenched and tolerated, if challenged sex industry. The biggest center was Angeles City, now apparently a scary ghost town of struggling prostitutes following the closure of US military bases in the 90s. But Manila, Cebu, and other cities all have many sex districts, and you've probably seen hourly hotel (SOGO) ads everywhere.

Early-age sexual activity, poor sex ed, and the political grip of the Catholic Church means low condom use. I suppose some guys like this kind of thing. It does mean that young single mothers are prevalent in all social classes, as abortion is outlawed in the Constitution, while dodgy black market pharmaceutical abortifacients and dangerous magical-herbal concoctions are sold in kiosks outside of churches.

Retirement haven: a lot of older expats want to settle down again, start a new family or small business (ex: dive shop), and buy some land. Only Phil nationals can legally own land. Of course there are ways around this (lawyers can arrange partnerships controlled by foreigners, with partners on paper who don't know each other), but some guys prefer to simply use their wives names. Of course this has its own dangers...

When I first traveled to the Phils as a mid-20s single male, everywhere I went in Palawan, locals of all ages and genders asked me why I was traveling alone, when I could just go pick up a college girl who was looking for extra cash during her winter break. I met a lot of couples like that -- their arrangements seemed pretty flex. Guy paid for everything, bought small gifts and maybe some gear, and likely made a cash gift at the end. Sounds like a lot of marriages really, just briefer... They usually looked really bored during dinner, with nothing to talk about.

When I lived in Manila, I dated interesting, articulate, beautiful, well-educated women. We met the same way people meet in the US -- through friends, at legit bars, online, in the supermarket, etc. In general, women were far easier to approach than in the US, and I usually felt welcome when traveling with them. Although, when I traveled with my ex (an upper class, college-educated Manileno who I was with for 2 years) I'd occasionally see holier-than-thou tourists turning up their noses at us in silly judgment. Taught me to be more tolerant myself."


  1. Wow! That was random and eye opening. Thanks for sharing. Really makes you appreciate the intolerance of this in the US. I have no problems with older men or older women with younger … however, this looks like a child with a grandpa. Sad. At least have some protections for these children, because they are merely just children.

  2. This makes sense tome oddly enough. I can see why the women would want that kind of "stability" actually. It's better than what they currently have.

  3. As a White American male who has been coming to the Philippines five to ten times a year since age 18, then received a posting here for a federal law enforcement agency, I have always enjoyed ruining it for all the "FOULS" Fat Old Ugly Losers who lurk around Manila, Angeles City, Olongopo, Cebu and Davao. I usually bring my college age and twenty-something colleagues who are fit, trim and good-looking to bar hop and it is quite comical how the girls IMMEDIATELY abandon the FOULs to dance, drink and shop with us instead. I have also managed to make numerous arrests for my federal agency of pedophile American citizens or U.S. Permanent Residents this way. Thankfully we are able to forcibly return them to the U.S. for federal criminal prosecution if they had ANY sexual contact with any person under the age of 18.

    1. This is hilarious. I knew a guy who got married to a filipina in the Philippines. He was 29 and I think she was like 21 or 22. And her parents would tell him they are so happy he was so young and handsome. They said they hope she never brought home a old fat white guy. (BTW he was black)

    2. I am a divorced 60 year old man. I am overweight borderline obese. I have a six figure salary and a near $1M net worth. I am engaged to a 29 year old Filipina. I take care of here 6 year old Daughter( her young Filipino boyfriend got her pregnant and ran off). She was working in Hong Kong for four years to support her Daughter. She is now living at home waiting for her Fiancé Visa. I am supporting her. I have visited her three times in the last 18 months in the Philippines and never slept with any other woman. Not all old white men are sex pigs. Some like me want a wife and good relationship. My Fiance( Juliet) loves me and tells me everyday how she thanks God he brought me into her life. Your attitude is arrogant and hypocritical. Some day you will be old and fat, if not you will be dead. Just because you are currently young and in good shape does not mean you are not exploitive jerks. Young men use these women for sex more often then older men. Maybe someone should report you to the US authorities too. Grow up and stop being a stupid jerk.

  4. Angeles was developed for vietnam vets. The ladys are cautious to spend time with Americans because alot of them have memories of being abused by American visitors.

  5. Great, old man trying to buy younger women, weakness at best and perverted at worst. Thanks

  6. Ur a fool 60 year old man. U support her. Open up ur eyes. I went to the phillippines and I'm 26 and I'm good looking. I had sex with a lot of them but the truth Is these girls are looking for support and some are lazy and want u to pay for things. They want a sugar daddy but not all of them are like that. The truth is I thought I really liked one too when I met one there and she treated me real good and I think she honestly did like me, but she wanted me to help her. She never asked specifically for money but I immediately told her I won't send her money when she started to seem to mention it. She got upset because I didn't "trust her" and she cut me off. I guarantee if u do the same shit where u give her nothing for a while same shit is going to happen. U no she can be going out there getting young Dick behind ur back because u live so far away. It's easy for them to do so. It's Happens often. These girls sell themselves Cus there poor.

  7. Hey anonymous - that 60 year old has more common sense than you by a LONG shot. So what if he chooses to support her, wow... imagine... they have a relationship and just like in USA, where a woman does not work, but lives at home and looks after the kids, there is no difference in this relationship. I am not saying that all the women have ONLY one fiancé or ONE boyfriend, but not all girls are the same... whether they are in Philippines or in USA. Yes, so what - she is poor, there are many girls in USA - single mothers, who are poor, and go fucking for the weekend, just to party or to score drugs or to get some cash, that is just reality. The 60 guy is looking after his fiancé so she is NOT forced into doing something that neither of them want - namely her having to go find someone else. In the Philippines it is very hard for a woman over 25 to get a job unless she has her own company, a unique trade or has connections. All the adds in windows are looking for lady 18 to 25 with pleasing personality - and pleasing personality just means expect her to be beautiful or she will not be hired. I have a Filippina wife and 4 children and she is NOT on the prowl to meet other men. Just because we have a bunch of 20 some guys in here talking about how virile they are and how much they can score, just shows that they are the trailer park edition of North American men. Definitely not anything to brag about.

  8. Wow, you see your wife every 6 months... Must be a great "marriage". I mean, both of you are obviously okay with this kind of relationship, so good luck anyway


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